Understanding Anxious Attachment

Have you ever found yourself constantly worrying about your relationships, overthinking text messages, fearing abandonment, or feeling like you're “too much” for others? If so, you might be experiencing what’s known as anxious attachment.

What Is Anxious Attachment?

Anxious attachment typically develops when early relationships with caregivers are inconsistent—sometimes nurturing, sometimes unavailable. As children, we’re wired to seek connection. When that connection is unpredictable, we often learn to stay hyper-attuned to others’ emotions, fearing disconnection at every turn.

In adulthood, this can show up as:

• Fear of abandonment

• Difficulty trusting that you are loved

• Over-functioning in relationships

• Anxiety when a partner pulls away

You’re not broken. You’re just wired to protect connection—because, at one point, your survival depended on it.

 Restoring Regulation in the Nervous System

Anxious attachment often leaves the nervous system in a chronic state of hyperarousal—always waiting for the other shoe to drop. Incorporating gentle somatic practices to help bring the body back into a state of safety and regulation.

These might include:

• Grounding techniques

• Breathwork

• Co-regulation exercises with a therapist or trusted partne

  Many anxiously attached people fear they’re “too needy.” DARe reframes this: Dependency is human. We’re wired for connection. Learning to express our needs without shame—and to trust that they can be met—is part of healing.

  Healing anxious attachment isn’t about becoming “less emotional” or “needing nothing from anyone.” It’s about learning to trust yourself, your inner wisdom, and your right to connection. You can create a new relational reality where love doesn’t have to feel like a rollercoaster.

  Your story isn’t over. In fact, it’s just beginning and this time, it’s being written with compassion, safety, and conscious connection.
  

About Rooted Healing
At Rooted Healing, we specialize in trauma-informed care that goes beyond traditionl talk therapy. We utilize holistic approaches such as EMDR and Somatic Experiencing. If you’re looking to heal from past trauma, anxiety, PTSD, or other emotional challenges, we’re here to help you on your journey. Contact us today by clicking here to learn more about how these modalities can help you reclaim your life.